27. 8 lessons that i've learnt
Posted Saturday, July 11, 2015 // 10:02 PMhola guys. update time! whew. yes, i am updating my blog on a school night cause i was ever feeling so inspired hahaha. i have nothing better to do, i guess?
don't ask me why but i'm feeling like listing all of the lessons that i have learnt during my 17 years of living. well, probably not all though. maybe just some of the things that cross my mind.
first things first.
DO NOT MAKE SOMEBODY ELSE YOUR HAPPINESS.
DO NOT, EVER. do not put somebody else first before yourself. people will leave you eventually. doesn't matter if they leave you on purpose or not. you can never guarantee that people will stay forever. even if they will, death will do us apart. trust me, i have been there (not that somebody died). and that is the worst thing i have ever done. it is like the most self-destructive thing to do to yourself. always, always put God first. God will always be with you. His existence is permanent. do not give all you have to other people. not that you can give them anything at all, but probably just 50% or 80% of it. never 100%. never.
NOT EVERYONE WILL SEE YOUR EFFORT.
whenever you do something for other people, always do it with sincerity. not because you want them to appreciate your effort. because sometimes, if you do it for the sake of the attention of the wrong person, no matter how big your effort is, they won't see it. they will be blinded by other stuffs. but that doesn't mean you have to stop showing your efforts. just don't do it for the sake of attention or to be noticed.
YOUR PROBLEMS AREN'T SOMEBODY ELSE'S PROBLEM.
the thing is, yes, sometimes we feel like we want to pour our hearts out and tell our friends or boyfriend about our problems. well, what you really should know that not all of us want to know about your problems. because we all have our own. somehow we just need someone to listen to. just make sure that someone really cares. but don't rely on them because not all of us can help you. maybe we can be just the place for you to pour your heart out. not to fix your problems.
YOU WILL LOSE CERTAIN PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
doesn't matter if it's your family or friends, it not not possible not to lose certain people in your life. they may promise you forever, but how long is forever if we can only live until only-God-knows-when? don't trust people who promise to love you forever. trust people who promise to love you until they don't anymore. it might sounds very scary but that's what i think is the truth. don't you?
YOU WILL CHANGE MULTIPLE TIMES
you will change multiple times through your life. but that's okay. doesn't matter if people can't accept you. if they can't accept you, what makes you think that they are the right ones in your life? it is your life. you may change into good or bad people. either way. doesn't matter how bad you will be, you won't be bad forever. because at some point in your life, you are going to realise that you have done a mistake. so what? change and be it. you are both of your good or dark side. you are your mistake. but how can we live without making a mistake?
YOU WILL END UP BEING THE PERSON YOU SAID YOU WON'T BE
you will. that's why we can't really judge people. because we will never know what awaits us in the future. people make mistake. so do we. the only difference is what our mistake is. we are all sinners but with different sins. don't hate people because they are a sinner. instead, hate the sin itself.
WE MAKE MISTAKE AND WE LEARN FROM IT
well maybe sometimes we make the same mistake over and over again until we realise that we are making a mistake. so what? learn from it. most of the times we will make mistake multiple times. so what we need to do is learn from it. and fix it. learn from what we have done wrong. sometimes we even realise that we are doing the same mistake and still do. but that's just how it goes. eventually, you will outgrow of it.
PEOPLE WILL JUDGE YOU NO MATTER WHAT
so do whatever you think is best for you. and be happy because you do. don't listen to what others think or say. they are not you. they don't have control over your life. you weren't born to please other people. you have to make yourself happy. because you are the one who is going to feel what you feel. you are the one who is going to face what you are going to face later on. so screw other people's judgement. you don't want to think about the thing you haven't done for the next 30 years or so because you were to afraid what people might think of you, right? doesn't matter if it didn't turn out well, at least you did it.
just a reminder; this is what I have learnt throughout my life. doesn't mean it's right though. just my opinion. idgaf if you do not agree with me.
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